How I improved My Mental Health

I have made a list of things I have done to improve my mental health, similar to self care tips but a little different! Some of these were easy to do, others it took time, but I made it happen and I have benefited ever since.

While there are many ways your family and friends can support you in improving your mental health, you should be self sustainable as well. Implement use of some of the things I did and you will notice a decrease in anxiety, decrease in depressive symptoms and an improvement in mindfulness. 

STARTED JOURNALING AND BLOGGING

I was gifted a creativity journal and I have adored it since I have gotten it. This journal helped improve my mindfulness and I was able to tap into my creative side! I started blogging which improved my confidence and ability to write everything down and share my stories with you all.

SELF REFERRAL TO THERAPY

I self referred myself to therapy, I am now undergoing severe PTSD Therapy with Somerset Talking Therapies and I cannot share with you enough how this has helped me have closure from very traumatic events.

THE greatest thing I could do to improve myself is acknowledge my need to grow and develop further. There were things from my past that I needed to process and I needed to be held accountable for my inconsistent and unhealthy boundaries with others.

I needed to learn things that would align me better within my career and allow me to function higher within society.

SET BOUNDARIES

Learning to say “no” was one of the hardest things I had to do. It was absolutely necessary to learn to set healthy boundaries for my mental health. I would over exert myself and do work that was not mine. I would allow individuals to take what should have been a strength and turn it into a weakness.

AKE A MENTAL HEALTH DAY

Last year,  I made sure to take a day here and there to myself for myself. I did not explain anything to anyone and just switched my phone off and had a pamper day. I now do this weekly, it is the greatest thing you can do to take time for your mind to repair and breath. It took a few times before I finally got the hang of taking a day off without guilt. However, I now look forward to sleeping in, going to therapy and meditating. 

DETOXED MY SOCIAL MEDIA

A little different than taking time away from social media, I went through my personal social media accounts daily and purged it. If I saw someone posting negativity or things that did not align with my vision, they were deleted and occasionally blocked. To this day, I still do this (I have way too many friends) and I love seeing it less and less. 

ALLOWED PEOPLE TO CUT ME OFF AND VICE VERSA

I would try so hard to keep people in my life that were not meant to be in it. It took them doing me so wrong or cutting me off. I became open to being the villain in someone’s story and accepting what I could have done differently in relationships/friendships.

SET GOALS

Similar to setting goals for my professional life I began setting goals for my mental health. Just as I would set my sights on receiving more certifications, I would also set a goal to meditate or journal more. From month to month, I would begin to implement good habits to overcome the bad ones and improve my mental health. 

ACCEPT MY IMPERFECTIONS

One of the things I’ve done to improve my mental health is to accept myself “flaws and all”. Where I once saw blemishes in appearance, inadequacies in performance, I now see that I am where I need to be at this point in my life. While there is always room to grow, I am sure to reward myself for how far I have come. I am sure to acknowledge the beauty inside and out, that others see so easily. 

FOCUSED ON WHERE I AM

I get so worked up into where I want to be that I – at times- forget about where I am. I love having goals and achieving them, I mean who doesn’t. I just needed to really focus on where I am to not only accomplish a goal but to soak in all I could so that I could avoid mistakes, educate others and realise if I liked doing what I wanted or not. 

READ MORE BOOKS

I read so many books when I was younger and needed to get back in tune with it. Not just to be mindful but to escape and go into a world that I imagined myself. Lately, I have incorporated self help, personal development, mental health and autobiographies into my reading list.

GOING FOR DAILY WALKS IN THE EVENING

I have recently started doing this and honestly my mind is so clear, after each day I am going for a 3 mile walk and unwinding after a busy day.

I suffered really bad at the start of 2020 with really bad depression and anxiety, I rigged myself out of it and I have come out of the other end. I hope sharing my stories, opinions and tips will help you improve yours. Remember YOU need to do this for YOU!

All My Love,

Peace, Love and Gin xoxo

REFLECTING ON MY 2020 CHOICES

Hi everyone!

I hope you’re all well. With the recent news of Lockdown 3.0, I am reflecting back on 2020 and looking at my goals, what I have achieved and what I will achieve.

I have recently started a degree in Business Management, this is something I have always aimed to do and would like to progress with Journalism. This came a light after my world got turned around August 2020, I received some upsetting news which made me hit rock bottom. Lockdown had affected my mental health, but the news I received I wouldn’t wish upon anyone. It is something I am still dealing with and have to live with. I turned to drink and drove my car half a mile which ended up with me losing my licence for a year. Full of regrets but onward and upwards, this is what pushed me to turn my life around.

I was recently diagnosed with severe PTSD November 2020 which I am now getting therapy for, 6 sessions in and I and I am doing great. For anyone that doesn’t know Severe PTSD is a mental health condition that’s triggered by a terrifying event — either experiencing it or witnessing it. Symptoms can include flashbacks, nightmares and severe anxiety, as well as uncontrollable thoughts about the event. I have experienced a lot of trauma in my childhood and adult life, I have witnessed and seen things I cannot explain.

I am so proud of myself for plucking up the courage to apply for open university after putting it off since 2016. I wanted to turn my life around and do something for me. I started this blog April 2020, I want to progress with my career, manage a company and write articles for magazines. I have recently been given another snippet to write in the Guardian (Not about Engagements this time) Long story…

I guess I should start by saying it probably seems totally random to many people. I work full time, I love to write, and I’ve loved having a blog. I want to say that I love this blog and my social media, I love updating my life on what I am doing, but keeping some stuff private still. Yes, you get the odd troll but predominantly, the people who follow me and who I speak to are truly amazing. I mean it from the bottom of my heart when I say you’ve all saved me in ways you can’t even imagine. I genuinely don’t know where I’d be if it wasn’t for all of you, who read what I write, follow me, like or comment or message me. It may seem small to you, but to me every small interaction is something that has helped me through so many different things in my life and for that I’ll be forever grateful. I can’t explain how blessed a life it is to lead, that when you’re going through crap, or feel at your lowest, and someone pops up to say ‘I hope you’re okay’ or even ‘I found this chocolate in a supermarket I think you’d like’.

I want to write and post and share. I want to help people by talking about things and letting people know that it’s okay to feel certain ways, and to be different, and to go through difficult things and that it will all be okay in the end. I have loved writing and reading since I exited the womb, and one of my life goals has always been to write a book, which I’ve promised myself I will do – but I guess the point I’m trying to make, in the most long winded way, is that I’ve felt lost during 2020.

I’ve felt like I wasn’t fulfilling my potential – and I don’t mean that in a bigheaded ‘I’m better than this way’ – what I mean is that I am so interested and passionate about helping people and writing, and I’m just generally someone who loves to learn, to read – and has always had a massive interest in Journalism. My goal for 2021 is to pass my first year of Business Management and focus on Journalism, I would love to become an agony aunt for newspapers/magazines.

Applying for a degree was a nerve wracking decision to make because 1) it’s a lot of money to spend and 2) I’m 23 and work full time! In all seriousness though, it has taught me that it’s never too late to do anything, or to start all over again. It’s your life, and it has limitless possibilities.

I am pretty sure I want to manage a company and write articles for magazines. I am being completely open minded and I am going to speak to as many people as I can in both careers Business Management and Journalism, and do as much research as possible to make sure that I make the right choice for me.

My life in 2020 turned upside down, hit rock bottom but some what picked me back up and I have blossomed. You want something, you need to go for it. You want to run a business, start a business, do a degree, get fit. DO IT! Do not sit and ponder, the world is your oyster, a couple set backs and you will have a major comeback.

All I know is that I am so excited for this new stage of my life, and I can’t wait to bring you all along with me!

Speak soon.

Peace, Love and Gin xoxo